Social
anxiety, as it is called, is the most freaking awesome thing in the world to
deal with. I have it, you have it, but on different levels(We're all in the
same game just different levels. dealing with the same hell just different
devils). I probably have it more than you have it, so lucky me. Have you
noticed that people tend to experience more mental
I'm not
making fun of anyone here, everyone is different, everybody has their own
issues, we just have to learn to accept ourselves. I've never experienced a
panic attack before, but I've experienced social phobia which is kind of like a
need to please everyone, but then you fear you will fail and make a fool of yourself
and you end up disappointed and hurt. This constant concern of rejection,
criticism and embarrassment can lead on to a psychopathological type thing
called social anxiety disorder, if not treated in advance. There are all kinds
of support groups( like A.A. ) that try to help those in need, since there are
so many of them. Undoubtedly, it is important to be aware of this illness and
never fear to ask for help. It is commonly known that psychologist are
seen with bad eyes by those who need their help, because who wants to become a
certified maniac? What would the neighbours say? In my opinion, if you need
help or advice just ask for it , mind your own business and leave the haters
behind because at the end of the day is your happiness and health that matters.
Do you
feel like the socially awkward penguin? Do you turn off going outs just because
you feel uncomfortable in certain situations(like talking to strangers)?
Are your worries stronger than needed, your level of stress higher than
expected or you find it difficult to concentrate? Welcome to the club, you
kinda fit the picture. I'm not pointing fingers, I'm just stating facts.
Alongside the genetic cause, low self-esteem that many individuals tend to
experience plays an important role in feeling this crappy. A study shows that
self-evaluative thoughts can come from the self-esteem level. In other words,
if you think you're worthless, you will believe that everyone else knows that,
judge you for that and makes fun of how awkward and stupid you are. The thing
is, if you think about yourself in a negative way, your body always feels the
need to protect itself, but this will usually lead to protecting yourself from
both bad and good things. There are many books on how to increase your
confidence and most of them are too theoretical or just copy each
other(been there, read that). There are also good books, good pills, good
shrinks, just pick one. A simple, but effective tip is self motivation and
autosuggestion. I don't care if you have to write on all your walls "Today
is gonna be an awesome day!", if it helps you thinking more positively and
boost your confidence even a little bit, then it's all worth it.
Point
is, everyone is insecure in one way or another, some are just better at hiding
it. You just have to cope with your own fears, face your concerns, do things
that scare you, think that even if you fail at least you will learn something,
you will gain experience. Just try to be yourself, and don't care about
judgements because even though you are beautiful and smart there will always be
someone that is not impressed/interested. Try to surround yourself with
optimistic and trustworthy people and live life to the fullest(such a cliché).
PS: If
you wanna find out about how other people deal with panic attacks, just watch
this girl's video,
because it will make you realize you're not alone in this big, big world.
